The Grief of Pet Loss

Last Updated on Thursday, 05 November 2009 17:00 Written by Administrator Thursday, 05 November 2009 16:20

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From the Desk of: John Bash, President of Spring Water Publishing
Written: November 05, 2009

Dear Friend,

All pet lovers have to face the death of their pets, sooner or later.

Other people don’t understand what it’s like. They may think that “it’s just a dog,” “only a cat,” or “just a rabbit.” But you and I know that the pain of loss that we feel is very deep and very real.

You see, it’s not only the loss through the death of your animal...but also the losses of companionship, comfort, security and love...that cause your pain.

Robin Jean Brown faced that journey when her beloved companion animal died in April 2005 after a long, painful ordeal with brain cancer.

An Easy To Follow Guide
That Will Show You
Exactly What To Do To Cope

Robin’s ebook will take you by the hand and lead you through all five stages of grief. How to ROAR: Pet Loss Grief Recovery is not something that's passive, where you just read about other people.

Instead you’ll find exercises and self-help activities that will help you work through your pain. Every chapter has Journaling Questions that will validate the sorrow that you’re feeling, as Robin leads you to create your own unique story of you and your beloved pet.

Robin is a kind, understanding person, because she’s been through the sadness herself of losing a pet who she considered to be her closest friend in the world.

Many people don’t understand this truth: “Grief is like a raging river. In order to get to the other side, you must swim through it. And if you avoid swimming through, you’ll never get to other side.”

Many People Harm Themselves
By Suppressing Their Grief.
Due To These 14 Myths...

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• Myth#1: People who experience intense grief over a pet who died (or will die) are weird. Truth: You are normal and healthy when you feel this way. People who have strong feelings about the loss are capable of intimate attachments and deep emotional bonding. This is something to be proud of, not something to put down.
  
  
• Myth#2: The loss of pet is insignificant when compared to the loss of human life. To grieve for the loss of a pet devalues the importance of human relationships. Truth: The loss of a beloved animal companion can be as emotionally significant as the loss of a close human relative. You can love and care about both animals and humans.
  
  
• Myth#3: It’s best to replace the lost pet as quickly as possible to ease the pain of loss. Truth: An animal companion can never be “replaced.” Every pet is different, with a unique personality. Naturally, the bonding toward each the pet is different. So, before getting another pet, people need to be emotionally ready.
  
  
• Myth#4: You should mourn alone. Be strong and independent when it comes to this. Don’t burden others with your problems. Truth: Mourners can greatly benefit by the empathy, caring, and understanding of supportive others. (And by the way, others do want to help you.) However, it’s necessary to be selective about where you turn to for help because some people do not take pet loss seriously.
  
  
• Myth#5: You should “just get over it.” Truth: When people say this to you, it’s based on the faulty assumption that you get closure to your mourning when you have only pleasant memories of your pet. But not everyone can achieve quick resolution on their own to such a profound loss. You see, one cannot fully appreciate pleasant memories unless one has unpleasant memories to contrast them with.
  
  
• Myth#6: You’re selfish if you euthanize your pet. Truth: Euthanasia can a compassionate and humane way to end the intense suffering or declining quality of life of a companion animal. It would be selfish to prolong the suffering of an animal in pain.
  
  
• Myth#7: The best way to cope is to suppress and bury your grief. Keep busy so as to not dwell on your troubles. Truth: Grief will not just go away. Sure, it may go away unresolved...only to come back haunting you. By following the exercises and applying the ROAR methods to go beyond the five stages of grief...you’ll be able to accept your reality...and move toward recovery from the pain.
  
  
• Myth#8: When people talk with sadness about missing their furbaby, it’s best to redirect their attention to pleasant memories they have about the pet. Truth: People who talk about their unpleasant feelings want receptive ears. Redirecting their attention reflects the discomfort of the listener rather than the needs of the mourner.
  
  
• Myth#9: Time heals all wounds. Just give it enough time and you’ll no longer feel so bad. Truth: Time by itself does not heal the pain. It’s what you do with your time that matters.
  
  
• Myth#10: The best way to protect yourself from the pain of pet loss is to not get another pet ever again. Truth: This isn’t the solution. Though there’s a price for loving the pet deeply, the courageous act of getting another pet brings positive hope to the mourner. (Don’t do this too soon though. On page 127, Robin reveals when the time is right to get a new pet.)
  
  
• Myth#11: Children handle pet death rather easily. The experience will not be carried over into adult life. Truth: Children feel as strongly over the loss of a pet as adults do. You should not overlook this.
  
  
• Myth#12: It is best to protect children from the upsetting truth of what has happened to their pet. Truth: Without showing the truth to children, it will cause more pain to them. And they may unfairly blame themselves for their pet “running away.”
  
  
• Myth#13: Pets don’t mourn for other pets. Truth: Some animals do develop strong bonds with other pets in the household. They will show some symptoms of mourning as people do.
  
  
• Myth#14: There is no need for someone to work through their emotions step by step in order to deal with this. Truth: Grieving is a long, complex process. Robin’s guide will take you through the stages of grief -- what to expect, what not to expect, and...most importantly...for each stage it will answer the question “Why do I feel this way?”

If you’re still holding onto any of the 14 myths of grief...Robin Jean Brown’s comforting guide is absolutely for you.

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To Get You Through The
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That's because this special guide is available in ebook format that you download instantly. That means that you get this effective material when you need it the most -- right now.

There's no waiting in line at the bookstore, and no waiting for a shipment to arrive in the mail.

You can instantly get this comforting material right now -- I mean within the next minute you can be reading it!

You’ll find glimmers of hope when you learn:

• The “when’s” and “how’s” of your relationship with your pet. You’ll feel comforted when you use this worksheet Robin gives you. (Page 23)
• How deep is your love for your pet? The answer may surprise you...and warm your heart. (Page 33)
• Who your pet really was. When you finish this exercise, you’ll know all about your pet’s personality, breed, health, and what made them a good pet. You’ll even know what some good rescue organizations are. (Page 41)
• Do you sometimes forget your pet is gone -- only to suddenly remember that they are, and then you break down crying? This is totally normal and is part of the denial stage of grief. You’ll get an action plan to work through this. (Page 49)
• Are you racked with guilt because you feel like there was something you could have done to make your pet live longer and happier? Robin reveals why guilt is harming you unnecessarily – which is not what your pet would have wanted. She works with you to find out the underlying irrational belief that’s causing your guilt. (Page 93) Then Robin reveals the exact steps to erase your guilt. (Page 98)
• How to have your pet die with dignity, in comfortable conditions with the people they love...through hospice care. Hospice is a familiar program for humans who want a sense of calm and safety during their final moments. Now animal hospice care is more widely available, and you’ll learn the exact steps to take if you want to pursue this humane option. (Page 109)
• After you’ve worked through the stages of grief, there’s a little known but highly-needed way to help animals that is actually the best way to reintroduce yourself to the possibility of a new pet. (Page 124)

Robin Jean Brown understands firsthand the deep bond that can develop between person and animal. She’s not some cold psychologist, but rather a pet owner herself who dealt with her own painful journey through the grieving process.

She found that there wasn’t a lot of help for her. Other books are either too cold and clinical...or they’re too sad, and just make you cry harder. And none of them had workbook-style questions to guide her through her journey.

So Robin wrote the guide herself – to deal with your grief, effectively and step by step. She is personal, empathetic, and comforting – yet at the same time she’ll help you move through your grief.

Her special ebook will introduce you to a revolutionary way of coping with pet loss. Robin developed and delicately refined a 4 Step Technique for coping with pet loss that she coined “ROAR.”

Here’s a brief introduction to this technique by Robin Jean Brown herself...

“It’s easy to remain passive during the grief process and to see yourself as nothing more than a helpless victim. For this reason, it’s important to use your acceptance of the situation as a jumping off point for a renewed commitment to your life. Going beyond the five stages of grief helps you to ROAR into a new existence.”

Here’s what Robin Jean Brown promises you – soon after learning the “ROAR” method to grieve the death of your pet...

“Embracing life again is such an exciting possibility and you are at the point to do just that. You have acknowledged and dealt with the pain of death. You have explored the grief process and know how to move on. You respect the lives of those no longer with us and appreciate that you need to live joyfully too. Guilt, denial and anger are banished from your outlook, and you are emotionally healthy once again.”

So, If You Have Lost Your Pet –
Do You Want To Embrace Your Life,
And Be Emotionally Healthy Again? Order

Keep reading...Don’t forget to find out the sad experience of the author. Maybe it’s similar to what happened to you.

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